Versions Of Violoence I

Έτυχε να δω 1 μελέτη, που τρέχει αναφορικά με τις μητέρες. Μια από τις παραμέτρους, που μετρά η έρευνα είναι αν έχουν ερωτηθεί ποτέ από προσωπικό του νοσοκομείου (ιατρό και παραιατρικό προσωπικό), αν έχουν υποστεί σε κάποια φάση της ζωής τους, λεκτική ή σωματική βία. Η απάντηση είναι ομόφωνη. Όχι, δεν έχουν ερωτηθεί ποτέ.



Σιωπηλά Χριστούγεννα λοιπόν...
(Σαν συνένοχη και εγώ δεν θα σας ρωτήσω αν έχετε υποστεί βία, θα ρωτήσω κάτι πιο εύκολο.)

Έχετε ρωτήσει τη φίλη σας, τη συγγενή, τη συνεργάτιδά σας αν έχει υποστεί βία, όταν κάτι δεν πάει καλά;



Are you in an abusive relationship?

Think about your relationship with your partner, family members and friends.

Does your partner, family member or friend:
Push, kick, hit, shove or slap you?
Embarrasses or humiliates you- in public or private?
Threatens your safety- either verbally, physically or with a weapon?
Destroys furniture when angry?
Throws objects at you or others when in a state of anger?
Tells you that you are nothing without them?
Puts you down and makes you feel ashamed?
Uses intimidation to get what he/she wants?
Denies you access to money, cars, credit cards?
Threatens to hurt or take away your children if you leave?
Prevent you from doing things you want to do, such as meeting your friends and family?
Make you feel like you are stuck in the relationship?
Threatens to hurt your family members?
Threatens to deport you if you try to leave or speak out?
Blames you for how he/she acts and feels?

Do you:
Fear your partner?
Find yourself worrying about how he/she will act?
Make excuses to other people about his/her behavior?
Doubt your judgment?
Feel that no one will believe you if you do speak out?
Feel depressed, powerless, and hopeless?
Feel that you always do what your partner wants to do, to try and keep the peace?
Try not to do anything that could cause conflict or upset your partner?
Believe that you are the cause for his/her behavior?
Stay with your partner because you are afraid of what would happen if you left?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you could be in an abusive relationship. You should talk to someone about your relationship. Only by breaking the silence, can you start to find change and hope